"Depression is often born from being trapped in a
situation we feel powerless to change.
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This class is not designed to be a cure-all for everyone, but it is
hoped it will help inspire with a spiritual approach.
Many times people with depression will feel helpless to change their current
state, as though there is no point or that no-one can help. Depression often follows
anger and helplessness. We quite often are literally beating ourselves up. Many times
people that suffer from depression are extremely intelligent, very sensitive and
compassionate people. Their sense of helplessness parallels the same spiral people
suffering from anger travel into resentment and stress related illnesses (mentioned in
class 22- Anger).
"Depression is nourished by a lifetime of ungrieved and
unforgiven hurts."
This spiral is especially negative as it is a process of 'swallowing
down' or accepting negative energy into ourselves with no vent or route for it to be
later transformed or released. Undealt with, this black hole spirals deeper and deeper
until it eventually translates into all manner of mental, emotional or physical
illnesses. Or ultimately to the point where the individual feels so powerless that there
is no course except for the perceived ultimate cessation of this pain through suicide.
From the spiritual point of view, nothing could be further from the truth. Ultimately
there is no solution to the acceptance of negativity other than its transformation
through some form of positivity.
Self-acceptance is my refusal to be in an adversarial relationship to
myself. - Nathaniel Brand
We must recognise that depression like any illness presents itself as
an imbalance. Some of us are genetically more prone, or perhaps our conditioning, the
family and people around us that makes it more likely for us to suffer from
depression. Given all that, spiritually, all illnesses, all imbalances are
curable. But we need to be wise
- let us use all the help we can from all science can offer. Its true our friends,
doctors, parents and family may adopt significant roles in inspiring
the process, but in the end we are infinitely more capable than we imagine of
permanently healing our depression.
We have said before that the cause of all suffering is lack of love
and of all happiness, the flow, or giving and receiving of love. This is a crucial
precept to remember in treating depression.
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into
enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.
It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for
tomorrow.- Melody Beattie
Manic depression episodes can strike at any time. One might be working
or picking up the kids – whatever it might be and suddenly anxiety might begin to
rise for no apparent reason, mentally, all sorts of turmoil and noise might begin to
develop.
How do we become calm? Focussed? So that we might begin to arrest the
rise of the negative turmoil, the anxiety and finally depression.
The simple answer is it is sometimes difficult to arrive at effortless
meditation. It requires work to get to real silence. It is an act of faith to believe in
yourself enough to know that ultimately you are responsible for your state of mind, that
you can control you. For most of us, this is really hard work. And little successes need
to be seen for the steps that they are to the ultimate mastery of our minds. Even more
important, we must realise that our ‘so-called’ failures are steps too. It
might take us 99 times of falling off a bicycle before on the 100th attempt we ride it.
All 99 steps are important. We are explorers and we are charting places that we
have not been to before.
Simple mantra meditations or affirmations are perhaps the
most effective when the noise of our thoughts is most pronounced. Try to
approach this in terms not of blocking or suppressing thoughts, but of lifting
or transforming them into something more positive.
If you think about this in
terms of energy you are not blocking darkness or imagining it is not there, you
are accepting it and illumining and transforming it forever with light.
The rewards, however, are magnificent.
It might sound simple. But to ‘be in the moment’ opens the door to every
ultimate joy in life. When we are imprisoned by our past regrets or fears of the future,
we lock away the key to our real self, to our soul and engross ourselves in the
illusions of the ego. Real love, for example, real joy can only be experienced in
the now.
One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is
that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose
garden over the horizon - instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our
windows today.-Dale Carnegie
Depressed people are often self fixated, caught in regrets from the
past or fears of the future and
rarely in the present moment. They are usually imprisoned inside their own egos.
Sometimes, like martyrs,
some of us that suffer from depression feel that we must swallow all the
negativity inside and not show it, so as not to affect others, that we can
handle it. But the reality is that we swallow it down with nowhere to go,
thereby only increasing the problem.
We might also use language that accepts depression as a part of ourselves. We should
continually reject it even in our words. Instead of ‘I am a manic depressive’
– transform it to ‘I have the ultimate challenge of depression that I am in the
process of curing’, or ‘sometimes I found myself working through depressive
moments’.
The simplest cure-all to depression, if there is such a thing, is the cure all to
everything and that is the flow of love. If when we are suffering from depression we are
somehow able to get to experience the purest love, then depression would be just a distant
memory. If we were able to release the darkness and replace it with the ultimate light,
love, on an ongoing basis than a cure to our depression would be inevitable.
In the midst of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an
invincible summer.
- Albert Camus
So if you really believe that you are capable of permanently healing
your depression, then go about the process of practising the flow of love. You are
never separate from love. You cannot escape it. It is your ultimate condition. Your most
natural condition. So work with love. Really practise it. Not just a moment here and
there, but really feel that you are offering love as often as you can.
Perhaps do some volunteer work where you have to test your unconditional offering of
love. Remember that the highest love is for the most people and animals and nature with
the least conditions. And realise that for you to receive love is also your most natural
condition as the whole universe really is loving you at every moment. Look at anything
with your heart for a minute or two and you will feel love flowing back to you.
We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose
infinite hope.
- Martin Luther King
Also explore yourself in meditation. See what is making you feel
helpless to change. What is imprisoning you? Investigate it. Perhaps you feel there is
some one or some situation that needs to change for you to be happy. Recognise you are
handing the power of your happiness to something outside of your control, which is not
only incorrect, because your flow of love is the only thing that will make you happy,
but it is also unbelievably unwise. See if there is someone that you have to forgive,
perhaps it is you! Perhaps you are hanging onto resentments or anger. It might even be
with fate or God. Let it all go and focus on the flow of love.
I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely
miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know that just to be alive is
a grand thing.
-Agatha Christie
A fantastic Australian organisation is Beyond Blue www.beyondblue.org.au Go to their website for
more..