No one's head aches when he is comforting another - Indian Proverb
In class 38
- learn how to remove expectations, filling mundane actions with
- practise giving unconditionally
Everything ends in love..
We have discussed in previous classes the concept that every
idea, every action, every thought ends in love. More than just love - it is
unconditional, divine love.
As an example, let us say that we are learning to play the
piano. Initially our body has to learn to place our fingers correctly, our feet
to comfortably push the pedals and so on. As we progress, it is our mind that
has to learn to focus and concentrate so as to play the piano without
distraction and to learn the most effectively and efficiently. Next, there will
be ‘aah’ moments of the heart where the piano is being played more intuitively
and creatively with the heart. Finally, we realize that the highest experiences
that we have in playing the piano are when they become effortless, where we are
being powered by the universe or God and both we and the piano are instruments.
This final stage comes about as a result of the flow of unconditional divine
You can reflect upon everything you do and realize that the
same process is taking place. It might be as simple as walking the dog, or as
seemingly convoluted as your career or goals at home.
For us to be more likely to be in the highest flow of love
we must first understand that one of the most powerful components of this
highest love is that it is unconditional.
This may sound trite but how many things do you do
unconditionally right now?
Truly reflect for a moment and realize that most of our thoughts
and actions are tied to conditions. ‘I work so I can have more money, so I can
give my kids all the things I did not have’, ‘I am doing this job I hate, so
that I can get the things I want’, ‘I love him in exactly the same measure he
loves me’, ‘I am learning to play the guitar so I can impress my
friends’ and so on.
Do you see the problem? All of our conditions tie us to
time, tie us to our ego, tie us to expectations about what has to happen.
“Real peace and real love begin where expectations end.”
Real unconditional love is in the now, in this moment, with
no conditions or expectations. It can not start until we abandon our
So take the time today to see how many condition-less
actions you can take. Work with no thought of future gain or your expectations
being met. You will immediately find that you will have more energy, have more
fun and be more likely to work effortlessly, because you will not be working
with the anchor of all your conditions and expectations.
So much of the noise in our lives is conditions and
expectations. Our stress and anxiety are usually about what we expect to happen,
and what we are anxious about not happening. Our impatience comes from, you
guessed it, our conditions and expectations not being met in our timeframe.
Play the piano, not with the idea of some future fame or
fortune, but just with the presence of being in the moment with no conditions
and you might find that it is playing itself.
Walk the dog, not because you are meeting the expectations
of others or of yourself, but simply because it is a moment to be simple and
faithful and loyal to one another and experience the deep unconditional love of
two souls in the moment.
Another place to practise unconditional actions is when you are
exercising. Most of us exercise because we will become fitter or stronger, but
just try exercising without those conditions, and you might even find that there
is love there.
When you contemplate the beauty of condition-less living
you will wonder how you ever lived any other way. Try giving anything without
conditions and you will see a beautiful flower opening in your life. True you
might find it hard - especially using money which is probably the hardest thing to give and receive
unconditionally as it is so strongly and inherently tied to conditions. So try
helping a friend unconditionally with some service. Mow their lawns. Bake them a
cake or help them care for their children. Look for ways to be kind. Or even better, help a stranger.
Being condition less is not easy in the beginning, but it
is the beginning of the highest experiences of our lives, the flow of real
unconditional divine love.
Please take a moment to breathe more slowly and
deeply. To feel your thoughts slowing and deepening with your breath.
You are not your body, you are not your ego or your
mind, you are your heart, your soul. The real you is deep within the
inmost recesses of your heart and your body, mind and ego are the
instruments of your soul.
For you to travel to the real you, you need to leave
behind the ego's past. All that has happened has happened and now is just the
pathway you have travelled, there is nothing to regret and no-one to
blame. You also need to leave the ego's future. If you fear or are anxious
about tomorrow, about what might happen, take this moment to realise that there is nothing to
fear, you are infinitely, infinitely loved and the universe is caring for you, far more intimately than you imagine.
The ego's impatience comes from its fears that its expectations may not
be met, that the events of fate might not unfold exactly as it demands
in the timeframe expected.
So what remains is this moment, and whether you
realize it or not, the deeper you travel into this moment, the wider it
opens until you will find there is all of eternity, but more than that
there is this whole universe, not just the physical dimensions, but all
the dimensions are within us. It is also the only place where real love,
the highest love exists.
So take a moment to let your consciousness expand
into this moment. Feel it peacefully drifting through love, expanding
through eternity. Let your awareness leave the entrapment of the ego's
past and future, and enter the soul's infinite and eternal universe.
Breathe deeply and feel yourself deeply, deeply in
the flow of love. Realize that here, there are no conditions. There are
no expectations. It is just being. Being the real you.
For the last part of the meditation, spend some time
in contemplation. Allow yourself to gently reflect on all the ways your
ego imposes conditions and expectations on your actions. Realize that
this is the way it exists more and more strongly in your life. The more
conditions and expectations you have in your life, the more egoic you
As we deconstruct our expectations and conditions
the more at peace we will be, the more in love we will be, the more in
our soul, the more God-like we will be.
See yourself doing actions without conditions.
Allowing yourself to be your real self, your soul..
During this 38th class you will have;
evaluated how conditional your
love and life is
thought of some practical
actions you can take to offer unconditional love to someone tomorrow.