“This is brilliant work, Jess. I have
marked you one of the top of the class, well done!” Jessie had worked
very hard on her assignment. For days she had been anxiously and studiously
labouring over it.
What sunshine is to flowers,
smiles are to humanity. These are but trifles, to be sure; but, scattered
along life's pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.- Joseph Addison
Now her lecturer was praising her effort. She looked down at the ground,
scuffing her feet, and allowing herself a small half-smile, she only just
stuttered, “Well, I know if I had of put a bit more time into it,
and I didn’t have problems with my computer, then it would’ve
been much better.”
The lecturer caught the mood. “Well Jess, you know you are often late
and your next assignment is due in a couple of weeks, maybe with a bit more
application you can iron out those wrinkles.” She looked away and
sighed as she felt the anxiety that had fleetingly left her beginning to
weigh heavily on her again as she pondered the magnitude of this next task.
How many of us respond to praise in this way? And again, how many of
us offer praise in this way? Praise is one of the most misunderstood energies
available to us. Received correctly, it offers us the opportunity to very
quickly and easily connect to the natural flow of the universe, tuning directly
to the will of our soul, incorrectly, however, and it as though we are walking
right past the beauty of a sunrise, distracted by the worries of an overdue
Put very simply, the gift of offering praise and appreciation is
the opportunity to offer another person reinforcement, encouragement, even
From the spiritual point of view, in this place
we call heaven, there is a constant empowering energy that is being
offered at every moment by the universe, it is for us to become conscious
of it to feel ourselves truly in heaven.
Praise and appreciation are insights to this energy. When we can offer
our praise in the purest way, we will feel no sense of ego or
separativity, but a real sense of oneness and joy in the synchronicity
of our endeavours. We will offer praise with the humblest joy of being
surpassed if necessary, feeling our delight in the oneness we experience
with the person we are praising. To receive praise is also an art.
The highest receiver of praise simply connects humbly to the universal
empowering energy, realizing that in the best sense of the term, all we
ever do as members of the community of heaven is channel the empowering
energies that flow all around us. We can no more claim that the ego has
performed an action, than we can claim to control forever our
Imagine what might have happened if Jess had realized that the praise she was being offered was an incredibly powerful empowering energy that she could utilize to advance her progress through the ‘success spiral’ (see class 5). Instead of kicking the floor and diverting the empowerment being offered, she might have opened herself to her real nature and received the vigour and determination she needed to effortlessly perform her next action, with the self-belief and confidence to breeze through. Instead she felt only fear and dread.
In offering praise, Jess’s lecturer first effort was fine, but perhaps if he had realized the opportunity he had to really empower Jess, he might have tried to much more insistently praise Jess. He might not have offered his criticism until another occasion, when he was sure that it was absolutely constructive to do so and that Jess had solidly received the praise he wanted to offer.
"Blessed are those that can give without remembering and receive without forgetting."
Importantly, the lecturer actually offered praise - often we put off praise until it is forgotten. Don’t waste an opportunity to empower - it is a gift.
There is a delicate balance with all of this. Sometimes praise can be discerned as being offered from such a haughty egoic height, that it is perceived in a condescending manner. This will only occur when the offerer or the receiver is caught with the feeling that it is their ego that is doing the action. This must be strongly guarded against, by humbly realizing that this is heavenly energy we receive and offer, we do so by simply channelling - not through any sense of ownership.
The great masters have always talked about gratitude as the great opener of the heart. That by offering gratitude we actually increase the heart’s receptivity. What a wonderful opportunity we have with such a simple dynamic as a ‘thank you’.
In fact, the same force we connect with in the flow of offering and receiving praise is utilized in the spiritual offering of gratitude, only much more consciously. Real spiritual gratitude is not about bowing and scraping before a great ogre of a master or God in case he gets angry and punishes us on some inconceivable whim. Real gratitude is simply an awareness of the force,
an awareness of the flow of love and all that it flows through.
We merely give thanks to the empowering energy that is at every moment gracefully consenting to energize, inspire and uplift our lives in this magnificent heaven.
Try it! How simple a little exercise, but you will be forever changed by it, if you can just suspend your disbelief long enough to do it’s little work.
If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul. - Rabbi Harold Kushner
What I would like you to do for 5 minutes every day this week, is write down seven things you are grateful for this day. They might be as simple as ‘a great pizza in front of the television’ or as esoteric as ‘the rising sun and the newness and beauty it offered,’ it does not matter, just write them down.
As the week progresses, work more and more on trying to connect with that empowering force that vibrates through the universe eternally. You will find it potent the more you feel gratitude not as something that finds its source in you, but as a component of the force itself. A component of love itself. This is important, the more you explore praise and gratitude, the more you will realize that their gifts are in the flow of universal love that pulses through the heartbeat of every soul on this earth, and just like a river we cannot own any element of it, we can only witness in awe its majesty. Practice this endlessly and you will find yourself solidly conscious of the heaven in this moment, now.
Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary
Because it means you've made a difference.
It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfilment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.
GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles
and they can become your blessings.
~ Author Unknown ~
Nothing in your life is beyond redemption.- Sting
No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of another. - Charles Dickens
When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around. - Willie Nelson
It is impossible to feel grateful and depressed in the same moment. - Naomi Williams
You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. - John Fitzgerald Kennedy