Put simply, as we have mentioned before, to progress we must change.
This is such a simple concept and it lies at the heart of our spiritual life. The more spiritual our lives, the more we change and the more comfortable we are with change.
Nature is a perfect example. It shows us again and again that the more alive something is, the more it changes. A tropical forest is so alive because everything, every single thing within it, is changing every second.
A man-made city however, in our quest to make things constant and safe, is an example of concreting over and tarring up, ‘insecticiding’ the changes nature had in store, resisting the flow of nature.
Eventually however, everything has to change, for we have no choice but to progress.
Straight away this creates a conflict in us as our world says to us that
safety comes from constancy and predictability.
For most of us our whole lives are spent trying to make things known, to make things safe -financially, emotionally and spiritually- by trying to make them foreseeable, changeless, or at least impermeable to change.
We even become narrow minded so that we don’t have to think new challenging thoughts.
Even stranger is the quandary science finds itself in. In its quest to label and make everything known, to dissect and reduce, it finds itself coming to a place at its most fundamental (the quantum level) where it has virtually no capacity to predict what might happen
To come back to us and our lives, how do we get more comfortable with change? How do we invite it? Indeed how do we love change?
It turns out that we do not so much have to search for change but let go of our resistance to it.
You see, change is a constant. It is natural. There is a flow to our evolution.
It is always there, the more we resist it, the more
difficult our lives become. There is a natural flow and a natural pace to
Our impatience is another form of resistance, telling the universe it is too slow or too fast and it is not to be trusted. We feel we need to inflict our own timeframe, so we disconnect from loving the universe from the natural flow and try and force things in our way and schedule.
How many times have you finally ‘got it’ and felt the release of a pent up block that might have been months or years in the making.
Or seen in others a simple change that would transform their lives but not been able to share it with them because of the resistance you can see in them to it.
This resistance occurs at every level in us, except obviously from our soul. There is physical resistance, mental and finally resistance from the ego.
Many times in meditation classes this resistance is obvious. Someone a little scared, or a little unsure of what is happening, spends their time fidgeting, or moving around, or unable to get their body to sit still whilst the meditation is on, then suddenly is calm and relaxed once the meditation is over.
Meditation is the fastest and best way to open and transform our state of mind by simply letting the flow of change, our evolution, through. We just let go of all of our resistance for a while and allow change through.
The flow of love lies underneath everything. Let go and let it be.
When next you sit to meditate, spend some time really getting physically comfortable and then just completely disarm your physical resistance by being completely still and silent.
See if you can come to a place where you
feel as though everything has stopped and is still, your breathing, your
Then just feel that your consciousness is going deeper than your body, that your body is being dismantled and reinvigorated for a while as it has the deepest, most efficient rest, and you become aware of the deeper aspects of your being.
Mental resistance will take the form of all sorts of worries or doubts or fears, perhaps even mundane thoughts about nothing important but enough to side-track us and stop us meditating and changing. “Is this working?” “Am I doing it?” “I can’t meditate!” “I am the only one in the world that cannot meditate.” “Will I lose myself?” “What’s on TV?” “It’s a waste of time.” “What will I have for dinner?”
Our ego will resist with all the things it has to do or wishes it had done. It is all about the “do-do”! Its most fundamental resistance is with time, it resists the now, by imprisoning us in the past or the future.
“After this I will do that and then this.” “Why did I do that?” “I should have said that to so and so.” The ego’s resistance is so tied up in the events of the world, it will try to make us feel that there is something so important to do right now, that even a few moments of meditation will absolutely have to be interrupted, now! “I have so much to do, I can’t sit here for 5 minutes.” “I am doing nothing, when there are so many important things to do.” “As soon as this is over, I have to call ..” “Was that an email?, my phone?”
And also, of course, the ego fears losing itself. Every time it loses its awareness of the passage of time, what it has done or will do, it does not exist.
In the present moment, in the now,
it does not exist, so it resists the depth and stillness and ultimately the
loving oneness of the now. It says “Where am I?” even “You might
die if you go too far with this.” Or “If you become one with
everything, YOU will cease to exist.” So sit with your ego and just
reassure that it will be all right. ‘There is nothing to do right now, we
are just going to relax into this now and be, not do.’
Spiritually, once our resistance has been relaxed, once we get out of our own way, meditation can take place.
The flow of love, the vehicle of the highest change, can gently like a wave, illumine and enlighten any darkness in our lives.
We find ourselves expanding our sense of self, becoming larger than we were. We realise a new, bigger way of thinking and the more we change, the more the flow of love flows through us, the more we feel that we are experiencing through all hearts, thinking through every mind, breathing with every life.
Our resistances seems so tiny, so insignificant – we wonder how we could have ever had such a tiny way of looking at things, or that we could worry so much about so many mundane or ordinary things.
The funniest thing of all of course, is that all change is so effortless, so easy when we can let go of our resistance. In fact, it doesn’t feel like change at all, our evolution becomes so natural, it becomes what is.
Take the time at the start of this exercise to offer reverence and gratitude to the souls close to you in your life. This could be family or friends or even animals or places that are important to your soul.
Take these few moments to acknowledge them, offer them reverence and thanks for the gifts they bring to your spiritual life.
Breathe deeply and take a few moments to completely relax your body so that you can meditate most powerfully.
I’d like you to feel that you are letting go of your body awareness as stage by stage you let go of your body and move deeper. Firstly try to come to stillness, see if you can get your body to complete stillness. If there are places in your body that need your attention then stop and spend a little longer there, sending love and relaxing that place, bringing every part of you to complete stillness.
It is as though every atom of your body is filling with love and light allowing it to completely rest.
Start with your toes, insteps and ankles of both feet, relax them and feel that you are allowing them to go to sleep whilst your awareness becomes more and more intense, alert.
Then your calves and shins, relaxing – almost as though you are putting your body to the side as you let it fill with calm, relaxing light.
Deeper and deeper is this feeling of relaxing
every muscle and coming to stillness as you move now to knees and
thighs, quadriceps and now both entire legs and feet are filled with
light and are still.
Moving to your hips and internal organs, stomach, liver, kidneys, pancreas – take a moment to really offer your body gratitude for how selflessly it serves you - lungs and physical heart, chest, shoulders and neck. Let it all fill with love and light and let your body ease deeper and deeper into complete relaxation, complete stillness.
Now feel the light flowing to your biceps and elbows of both arms, elbows, forearms, hands and fingers.
Then to your face, your jaw, chin, mouth, lips – relaxing – nose, ears, eyes - draw a figure eight of light and relaxation around your eyes. Then your forehead and hair and the crown of your head.
Every part of your body is now filled with light and love and completely still, it is as though your whole body is asleep and you are putting it to the side whilst your awareness has become super intense and very alert.
As we move to the mind and ego bring your attention to all of your thoughts, your conscious and subconscious, your past and future, and bring love, acceptance and stillness again to all these parts of you.
Recognise that as we bring love, we bring ourselves to this moment, now, and let go of your attachment to all that you have done or might do in the future.
Deeper and deeper, and again it is as though in
stillness and this now, you are able to let go of your mind and ego and
go deeper with more alertness and clarity to that fundamental aspect of
us, our soul.
Deeper and deeper, and as we venture more and more into our own soul we realise there is infinite love within us, infinite light.
Let go again and again, feeling the relief of letting go of resistance and relaxing into our real nature.
Deeper and deeper. More and more love, and begin to feel that you are expanding your sense of self - of who you are - into the love and light that reverberates through every soul.
We begin to feel ourselves as the light that shines within all.
Deeper and deeper. Relaxing more and more. As we let go of our resistance we feel more and more of our real nature being revealed. And we realise there is a hunger within us, a deep longing, a fervent aspiration that has perhaps been the most powerful urge of your entire life deep, deep within you.
As we search it out, we realise it is the urge to expand our experience, to love more and more deeply, more and more souls, with fewer and fewer conditions.
We let ourselves drink in this delicious hunger, we relax into it and we feel the ache of our heart, the pain that is at once absolutely excruciatingly beautiful and blissful.
Our longing fills us with gratitude and love, and the light and love floods us, like a monsoon storm that will not end.
We feel in stillness the most powerful, most primal force in the universe, the expansion of love, and every part of us is inundated by its exquisite blissful delight.
I will leave you in silence, but with each breath let your soul take you deeper and deeper into the inmost recesses of the deepest longing of love ..
Really explore this ancient, most elemental of all forces, this aching, longing to expand our love. If you let it, it will feel more like home than any other feeling.
As we come to finish the meditation, and you look back to your mind and ego, just remind yourself that you are not just that mask, those roles that you have accepted in this life, you are something much deeper.
Realise that from this very deep place of love that you are not one ego, but all egos, not one role but all roles.
You are not one father or mother, or brother or sister, but all mothers, all fathers, all brothers, all sisters.
And as you come back to your body, again experience the feeling that you are not one body, but every body, as you let go of all resistance, you might come to realise that you are in everyone and everything in love.